My fiancé, Andy, was very sick last year. It was scary, and stressful, and I needed moral support I didn’t know how to ask for. The best I could do was be honest with my family and friends about how things were going, but only when they asked because I just wasn’t good at reaching out.
Most everyone was amazing, checking in with us regularly to not only see how we were, but to make sure we knew they were there for anything we needed.
Sure, there were some I didn’t really hear from about it, but I chose to believe one of two things:
1) I had not made it clear to them just how serious things were, or
2) Busy with their own stresses, they had simply forgotten to ask
Either way, I didn’t let it bother me. No doubt, I had been on the other side of things like this a time or twenty, failing to reach out to someone who I didn’t realize could have used my support.
What was upsetting was the realization of a third possibility reserved for one of my closest friends….